10 to Zen

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I wish to share some steps that helped greatly with my anxiety, panic attacks, depression but ego aswell.

Simplicity

I want to start of by saying the simplicity is the key to everything. We get so focused on what we want, what we need, that we often forget where those “needs” and “wants” truly come from. We forget to look deep down and see ourselves in our truest colors.

Young mind and soul

When you were little you surely asked yourself a billion of times: “Who am I?” Do you remember the answer? If you do congrats, you never have to wonder around the garden of existential crisis ever again. Yes, I realise arguments to this you have right now but look at it in a simple way.  

When you are young your soul, your mind is a bricked up house. It is a house in the making, lacking doors to stop people from getting in. Lacking windows to get you permission to peak in other people’s lives, lacking all the nice little essentials and décor. But it has a shape a shape you were born with, that shape doesn’t change. It is simple as that.

Young mind is simple, young mind can see the true purpose in its life. And that is Zen. Simple enough to make it too complicated for us grown ups to grasp. A simple mind leads to a clean, pure soul. Meditation and Buddhism thought me that.

Teachings of Zen

At the heart of the Japanese culture lies Zen. Teachings of Mahayana Buddhism. Zen a practice that was uninterruptedly transmitted from master to disciple, and that goes back to the Awakening of a man named Siddhārtha Gautam – The Buddha – 2500 years ago in India. Zen Buddhism is not interested in rituals and metaphysical theories. It focuses entirely on the mindful practice of Zazen.

Zen is a noun. Zen is an adjective.

You can read all the books in the world but if you don’t practice Zen through meditation and breathing exercises, you will know nothing. Explaining Zen is like trying to explain taste of chocolate to somebody that had never ate it. You can compare the taste to something else but the bottom line is: chocolate is chocolate.

So here are some steps that will help your ego wash away the burden that keeps you away from your Awakening.

Steps

  1. Let go of compering.
  2. Let go of competing.
  3. Let go of judgments.
  4. Let go of anger.
  5. Let go of regrets.
  6. Let go of worrying.
  7. Let go of blame.
  8. Let go of guilt.
  9. Let go of fear.
  10. Have a proper laugh attack at least once a day.

Remember: Your body is not a temple.

Temples can be destroyed and desecrated. Your body is a forest. Thick canopies of maple trees and sweet scented wild flowers sprouting in the underwood. You will grow back, over and over again, no matter how badly you have been devastated.

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Never forget to be free,

Lots of love, Ellodie

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Steps to letting go ( originally written and posted on BayArt)

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Letting go

Without letting go of the past you will never be able to live in the present. I want to emphasize the importance of letting go of any grudges any regrets, losses, missed chances or broken hearts.

Forgiveness my experience

I never truly forgave my mother. I was and I still am in touch with her, we see each other. Much more than we used to. In the beginning months would past and she wouldn’t call. I now have a better relationship with her than ever. I believe that is because I finally peeled of the mask I glued onto myself as a result of protecting myself. My soul was still clinching on my dads once broken heart and on the past. I had poison of blame flowing through my veins. Poisoning my heart daily for 7 years and I never really admitted it to myself.  Admitting is a first step in every aspect of our lives. Being honest with yourself is the healthiest decision and the greatest favor you do in your lifetime. I am going to share some steps that I followed in my letting go process because that is a hard but rewarding process trust me.

Admitting it

I know it’s hard to admit firstly let alone allow yourself to release the thorns in your heart. Past can be a beautiful rose that we water and admire everyday even after it’s rotten. Past can be a bunch of thorns that we hold onto tightly because we think it is the only thing that can fill our scars. Specially than its hard to let it go because it is not a pleasant feeling to bleed but bleeding stops. We just need to let the wounds breathe.

Steps

  1. Cry it out – holding it in is just gathering all of the negative emotions in your body and mind. It will influence your health, both mental and physical. Negative emotions gather up and later lead to stress and depression.
  2. Collect your thoughts, see what experience thought you and what you gained from it – every bad experience in our life is a great lesson, we become a better and stronger person because of them.
  3. Meditate – Meditation is a big helper in every aspect of our life because we learn how to connect with ourselves in the deepest way possible. We unravel the truth; we learn how our mind really functions and how to treat it.
  4. Acknowledging your progress – It is always important to acknowledge your success, It keeps you motivated and it makes you push even harder.
  5. The only three options – you only truly have three options: moving yourself out of the situation, changing it or accepting it. If it is bothering you and affecting your life still than the first and the last option are obviously not working.
  6. Just talk – Talking is the key to moving on, share your thoughts and emotions with others, find people that been through the same or similar situations.
  7. Put on the other pair of shoes – See the situation from the other perspective; try to understand their reasons and emotions. Keep in mind we are all humans and we make mistakes. How we deal with them later is what makes the difference.
  8. Visualize your present reality – see what surrounds you know and how you feel and live in this moment.
  9. Metaphorically throw it away- I found this method in a book written by a Buddhist (“Don’t worry, be grumpy” by Ajahn Brahm) It works like magic. Write down all the negative thoughts on a ball or a piece of paper or glue them to a stick, visualize your past and everything you wrote down and throw it away. You can throw it in a garbage can or flush it down the toilet (don’t flush the stick or a ball of course) You can even organize a little event in your backyard, invite some friends, pour some glasses of wine and let that past go together.
  10. Write a letter- Words are so important, writing is a great therapy for anyone. Write a letter to yourself or to the person that wronged you. Write how you felt, how you feel but also don’t forget to write that you forgive them ( or yourself if that is the case).

I hope I could help you with this post. Im sending you all of my support and positive energy.

Lots of Love, Ellodie.